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Divorce & Taxes

4/28/2022

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Know what divorce is filled with? Bad news. For all that divorcing people gain, like new relationships, peace of mind, emotional health, and new beginnings, divorces are still filled to the brim with loss. Divorced adults lose money. Homes. Friends. Family members. Their sense of self. Confidence. Stability. I could go on and on. Having worked with divorcing people for nearly 20 years, I can tell you that most people go on to live better, more fulfilling lives that bring them joy…but that exciting future doesn’t change the difficulty of living through the divorce.

But here’s the good news! Divorce often comes with wonderful tax breaks for people…and this is the time of year to reap those benefits. About time, right?!?!? Exactly. In July of 2021, Kiplinger put together a wonderful article designed to make people aware of the most overlooked tax breaks for newly-divorced people. Keep in mind, these are not ALL of the advantages…just the most overlooked. To make sure that you reap every tax benefit available to you, please do work with your tax preparer, accountant, and financial planner.

​The tax breaks identified by Kiplinger include:
  • Changing your filing status (if divorce is final by December 31) to head of household
  • Deducting court-ordered alimony (that you pay) on your taxes if your agreement was in place prior to the end of 2018.
  • Making sure you get your child tax credits as outlined in your decree. If your ex is in arrears, and your child lives with you more than 50% of the time and you provide the majority of their support - you may be entitled to more than your decree outlines. Contact your attorney for guidance about this. Note, may Decrees will have language that if a parent is behind on his or her support payments at the end of the year he or she loses the dependency exemption. 
  • Medical expenses that you have paid for your child
  • Be mindful of property tax basis for properties divided in the divorce
  • Potentially avoid $250,000 in gains on the sale of a home
  • Alimony recipients, because alimony qualifies as income, can contribute an additional $6,000 into IRAs, reducing tax liability. If you’re over 50, that cap increases to $7,000. (Wrong - Alimony payments are not taxed to the receiver and not credited to the payor).
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Co-Parenting? Here are some tips.

3/24/2022

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Co-parenting both during and after divorce can be tough stuff. But in divorces that do not have significant domestic violence and abuse, substance abuse, or dangerous mental illnesses, co-parenting is the way divorced parents operate. It may get easier to manage over time, but there are always times that present more challenges and conflict than others, and school breaks are definitely one of those times. Ultimately, the divorce changes when and how you can spend time with your children, often greatly reducing that time, and that enormous life change is difficult for loving, involved parents. To help process this, take a moment to read Co-parenting and Joint Custody Tips for Divorced Parents from Help Guide.

A good divorce decree should clearly spell out how holidays and breaks are supposed to work, but before that decree is in place, those details need to be worked through by the parents (often with assistance from their lawyers). Even when you have a good decree, life can happen that presents challenges to plans, and co-parents need to pivot. Since this is the month of spring break, I thought I’d share this great spring break survival guide from Parently. And since we’re still contending with COVID, here are some great spring break ideas that can be done at home or some creative outdoor activities kids might enjoy in Phoenix. These are also wonderful, local options for parents whose plans include ‘splitting’ the break.

Is co-parenting tough? You bet. Is your ex still a selfish idiot who relishes making your life difficult? Possibly. Ultimately, however, it offers health and stability to your kids during what, for them, has been an overwhelming change in their young lives. Kudos to you for keeping that thought front-and-center as you continue to try and work cooperatively with the other parent.
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UGH...Valentine's Day. Right?

2/13/2022

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Valentine's Day during divorce can be...the worst. I won't sugar coat it for you. The divorce process is already stressful in so many ways. It is a time of loss that taxes your time, money, relationships, and emotions for months (and, sometimes years). This sustained assault on so many different fronts may not leave you with much tolerance for expressions of love everywhere. Overpriced flowers delivered to gushing office colleagues. Tacky stuffed animal baskets at busy intersection corners. Hearts. Just everywhere. Chocolate-covered strawberries. Prix Fixe menus that ruin your meal plans. You. Just. Can't. WAIT - except the chocolate-covered strawberries. You might be able to choke those down.
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If Valentine’s Day might be an emotional trigger for you, don’t let it sneak up on you. Have a plan! Honestly, this is true with all important dates and holidays during and after your divorce. Having a plan makes the difference between reinventing traditions in an enjoyable way and feeling victimized and hurt by the loss. What type of day and/or evening could you plan that might be enjoyable for you this holiday? What could drown out the obnoxious cupid-fest all around you? If paying the San Antonio Zoo to name a cockroach or rat after your ex (see my February 2021 blog), or repurposing your engagement ring  don’t perk you up, perhaps some of these ideas, along with the sassy tone of the article from Midlife Divorce Recovery might! 
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New Year; Moving Life Forward

1/28/2022

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“Most of the time, change is a good thing. Now, I think that’s what it’s all about. Embracing change. Being brave. Doing whatever you have to, so that everyone in your life can move forward with theirs.” ~ Ted Lasso 

In September of 2021, The New York Times reported that divorces are on the rise. It’s unclear whether this is a direct result of the pandemic, a side effect of the courts being slowed by it, or a combination of both, but the surge is real in many cities and states. Add to that reality that January, in a non-pandemic year, is so notorious for presenting a significant increase in divorce filings that it has been nicknamed 'divorce month'. Although the pandemic has changed people’s lives and perceptions, the core reasons for divorce remain constant.

If you’re wondering why people seek divorce, Laura Wasser, the famous California attorney who represented Kim Kardashian, Ryan Reynolds, Maria Shriver, and others, has a robust article, including research, that answers that question: conflict and arguing, lack of commitment, infidelity, lack of intimacy, poor communication, domestic violence, irreconcilable moral views, lack of shared interests, substance addiction, absence of love, financial problems, marrying too young, and inequity of responsibilities in the relationship. The Power of Two dials in on some dangerous relationship situations that are signs a divorce is healthy when one or both partners refuses to change: emotional abuse, physical abuse, addiction, repeated cheating, mistreatment of children, and an untreated mental disorder.

Whatever the situation in a particular relationship, DivorceMag has some helpful advice about steps to take once someone decides that efforts to save the marriage have not worked. They suggest that people:
  • Collect the necessary paperwork
  • Set deadlines for key activities, like document collection and hiring an attorney 
  • Find support that you need. Mediators, therapists, financial advisors, friends, and family will be important as you move your divorce forward and reimagine your life.  

As a final financial resource, Forbes has a helpful article to support newly divorcing parties in thinking about the costs of divorce and how to manage them.
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aWESOME, eASY LAST-mINUTE gIFT IDEAS

12/19/2021

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Know what makes the holidays tough? Supply chain problems. Amazon delivery theft. Parking snarls at large malls. Procrastination in general. If you’re like me, you’re trying to cross everyone off of your list to show your love and appreciation this holiday…but coming up short. During a year of personal upheaval, there’s extra pressure to show your biggest supporters how much you appreciate them.

If you’re in a pinch right now, I have ten low-stress, fast gift ideas for you that could help you overcome the overwhelm this holiday season! These are some of the favorite things in my own family, so I hope you can find a thing or two that would be just the right fit for someone in yours. I hope alleviating the shopping crunch will allow you to enjoy your most beloved humans this holiday season and enable you to be mindfully present in its most wonderful moments.
  • Farmgirl Flowers ships absolutely gorgeous floral arrangements for a very reasonable price (most arrangements are $65-$85). The peonies, anemones, and California lilies are unique and thoughtful. If you really want to blow someone away, you can get 100 roses for $200.
  • Changing Hands is a local bookshop, with stores in both Central Phoenix and Tempe, that sells custom-amount gift cards, and for only $10 additional, they will give you a branded coffee mug to go with it. You can’t go wrong with this for the reader in your life!
  • Woodhouse Chocolates, out of St. Helena in the Napa Valley, ships amazing chocolate treats during cool weather! They have wonderful holiday baskets…but don’t be afraid to ask for an elegant custom box of the champagne and brown butter white chocolate truffles. What a way to ring in the new year! And don’t skip browsing their homemade chocolate bars and their cool chocolate art treats for kids!
  • Driftaway Coffee offers monthly subscriptions for the coffee lover in your life. This gives the recipient something to look forward to each month while allowing them to sample all different types of coffees from around the world.
  • Mantry is another subscription box program for foodies. Their target market is men, but I think anyone could enjoy what they have to offer. Their rustic, wooden boxes contain unique, vetted products designed to excite people who love food that is bold and adventurous.
  • MasterClass! Know someone who loves to learn? Master Class is offering its seasonal 2-for-1, full-access memberships for the holiday season. Learn from experts like Gordon Ramsay, David Sedaris, Malcolm Gladwell, Alicia Keys, Christina Aguilera, and more.
  • Great Local Activities. There are wonderful activities here and near our Valley for couples and families. Memberships for the Phoenix Zoo, the Phoenix Botanical Gardens are the gift that keep giving. The Immersive VanGogh Experience in Scottsdale is a stunner, and Alcantara Adventures provides panoramic trail rides just north in Camp Verde. Taliesin West is offering a Chihuly exhibit through June. And who doesn’t love patio dining in Arizona’s winter? Gift cards to El Chorro, Chelsea Kitchen, Buck & Rider,  Postino,and  Chantico offer tickets to some of the most snuggly winter patios.   
  • Sketchbox is a great art gift for young people. Each box comes with a specific art ‘assignment’, a QR code for a video instruction, and all of the supplies necessary to complete it. The supplies and assignments are unique and varied and provide new challenges for the artsy kids and teens in your life…and quiet time for their parents!
  • ​History Lover Subscriptions Again, it can be nice to have surprises coming through the mail each month. This article does a really good job of providing a variety of options to delight the specific type of history nerd you have in your life.
  • Escape Room & Mystery Subscription Some of these purchases are one-and-done items, while others are more of a subscription. These provide interactive activities for the recipient who loves to wrestle with mental puzzles and problem solve.
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Domestic Violence Awareness Month

9/28/2021

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As a family law attorney, It is troubling how often I see signs of domestic violence in dissolution actions. Recent statistics show that 1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men in America will experience severe intimate partner violence in their lifetime. The sad truth is that the COVID pandemic has exacerbated this already shameful domestic violence reality in our state and country, as Time Magazine reported this past February. At the heart of this issue is a simple truth: No one has the right to intentionally harm, control, or abuse another person.
Recently, I was reminded of just how wrong these situations can go when a client, despite having an order of protection, was killed. An unfair truth of domestic violence is that victims often become responsible for keeping themselves safe. In the face of this reality, recognizing abuse and awareness of the real danger it poses is critical for victims, survivors, and their loved ones. At the end of the day, an order of protection is only a piece of paper. If the 'recognizing abuse' signs above apply to your own situation or that of a loved one, please work closely with professionals to ensure safety.  
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When you have children with an abuser, even after divorce, these situations become even more dangerous and difficult to manage if there are exchanges of children that force you to be in vulnerable situations.  I highly recommend, if you are in this position, that you have someone make the exchanges on your behalf, have the exchanges at a public place, and conduct the exchanges without any communication or interaction. Finally, I strongly recommend that you visibly record the exchange. You want an abuser to know the exchange is being recorded to minimize the chance of his or her acting out.

​Join me in standing up for domestic violence victims and survivors by supporting the Governor’s Office of Youth, Faith, and Family in bringing awareness to our domestic violence crisis through a variety of #LightingAZPurple events this month. It kicks off with the October 4th Purple Kickoff Event and offers a variety of ways you can bring visibility to the cause...along with helpful resources for anyone seeking safety from domestic abuse for themselves or a loved one. 
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Marriage & Divorce during a pandemic

7/31/2021

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​There have been many articles published in the past few months that ilIustrate the toll that COVID has taken on families. I recently read an article in U.S. News titled "A Vaccine or This Marriage: Conspiracy Theories Are Tearing Couples Apart" by Jesselyn Cook. In it, one of the interviewed parties reported that her husband said, “If I take the vaccine I could pack my bags and leave his kids here.”

As a divorce attorney I have not heard this exact scenario, but it also did not surprise me. The COVID pandemic, and all that has come with, has caused a tremendous amount of stress in families, and many Americans are polarized about the vaccine. A marriage with a highly opinionated spouse that is convicted to a belief very easily could put a partner in a position whereby they have to choose whether or not they are equally convicted. This tension very well may lead to one spouse filing for divorce.

Over the years, I have seen the issue of whether or not to have a child vaccinated lead to litigation. In a divorced family in which the parents share joint legal decision-making authority, if the parents are not in agreement on whether or not to have the child vaccinated and both parents are strongly entrenched in their respective position, it is left the court to make that decision. The truth is that judges have different opinions on the necessity to vaccinate or not, and in Arizona, there is no standard, consistent response required by the court. One thing that is consistent is that disagreements like this often lead to high litigation costs that may or may not be seen as reasonable by the court. 

In a situation whereby one parent has sole legal decision-making authority, the court will decline to override that parent's choice, as there is a strong argument that making the decision infringes on that parent’s Constitutional right to parent. I only add this to highlight the fact that there is a very fine line between government intrusion into the parenting rights and the court having the right to make decisions regarding what is best for the child.

If you have a story that you are willing to share, I would love to hear how this pandemic has affected you and or your family.  
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Bitter Custody Battles Not only for Celebs

5/31/2021

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I recently read a HuffPost article about Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie that shared Mr. Pitt finally (after 5 years) obtained ‘joint physical and legal custody’ in California. You read that correctly: FIVE YEARS. If you haven’t been following, Mr. Pitt and Ms. Jolie were divorced in 2016 and have 6 kids together. During the original divorce, Mr. Pitt’s alleged acts of domestic violence and substance abuse problems led to him being denied joint legal decision making and custody.  Upon this new, recent ruling, Ms. Jolie has stated she will appeal on the grounds that the judge improperly excluded her evidence relevant to the children’s health, safety, and welfare. Reading this quick article made me think of a few points to consider for families in similar situations:

It is never over. 
1. Despite any divorce being ‘final’, the fight can continue for years. These post-decree battles normally (but not always) involve children. 

2. In Arizona, any time there is a change in circumstances that affects the children’s best interest, a modification can be made by the court regarding legal decision-making, parenting time, and/or child support.   

3. When a trial court issues a decision, the parties are able to continue litigating either by motioning for a new trial or seeking an appeal. Also, although rarely done, a party can petition the Arizona Supreme Court to hear the case after an appeal. 

Domestic Violence & Substance Abuse
1. These are two very significant issues that can have a major impact on the court’s decisions affecting the health and welfare of children...but don’t assume they automatically will. These issues are something that need to be introduced, evidenced, and fought for in court. 

2. It’s shocking for clients, but you cannot assume that judges will understand the complexities of either of these issues or the impact they have on a child’s health and wellness. When these issues are relevant to your case, it is important to get experts involved to help educate the court about the specific facts and evidence in your case and the impact they have on the children. 

3. The court’s handling of substance abuse in family law cases varies widely. Some judges strictly order random testing and treatment. A number of courts/judges, however, will essentially dismiss the substance abuse issue if the addicted party does something to seek treatment...even if it’s not completed. There is no standard practice. Few judges understand addiction and therefore misunderstand treatment methods and/or the necessity for ongoing monitoring to ensure the children’s safety. 
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4, Similarly shocking, regarding cases with domestic violence, the court often lacks understanding of current research of it, and there is no standard practice. Judges can be focused exclusively on the physical evidence (broken bones and blood) and not give proper weight, in my opinion, to the psychological, emotional, and financial trauma that occurs with controlling and coercive control. Again, it is important to bring in an expert to help educate the judge about your case and the need to protect the health and well-being of the children.   

The complex issues of substance abuse and domestic violence, as found in the Mr. Pitt and Ms. Jollie case, can drag a case out for years. This is because they require the court to be involved over time as one or both parents receive the treatment and services they need to address the substance or domestic violence issues in the case. Ultimately, the goal of the courts is to restructure the balance of power to ensure everyone is safe.

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Filing Taxes for the Divorced or Divorcing

3/28/2021

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I came across this excellent article in The Balance that provides an overview of various options for filing taxes depending on whether your divorce was legally finalized or is still in progress. As part of this overview, the article provides information about the IRS tie-breaker rules for determining which parent gets to claim a child as a dependent.

One thing that the article did not touch on, that I believe is essential, is how child support impacts parents’ qualifications to claim a child as a deduction on their taxes. This impacts many of my clients. As always, in Arizona, parties should, first and foremost, review their specific court orders for clarification on this matter for their particular case, and if you have any questions, consult with your attorney. Also, it is prudent to consult an accountant or tax advisor regarding your specific situation, as family law attorneys do not provide any tax advice.
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The Arizona Child Support Guidelines, Section 27, provides that a parent who is not current with his or her child support payments by December 31st may be precluded from claiming a child as a dependent. As with all cases, it is important to check your specific court orders for decisions in your personal case. Additionally, the court can deny both current and future ability to claim a child as a dependent when there is a history of nonpayment of support obligations. Finally, a parent may need to obtain IRS Form 8332 to file with the tax return.
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Valentine’s 2021: Naming a Cockroach after Your Ex?

2/7/2021

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I recently ran across an article whereby the San Antonio Zoo was having a promotion for Valentine's Day, Cry Me A Cockroach. For $5, participants are able to name a cockroach after an ex to be fed to zoo animals. If your ex was a real piece of work deserving of extra attention, you can pay $20 to name a rat that is fed to bigger zoo animals. 

As a human who has been accused, on more than one occasion, of having a dark sense of humor, I could immediately see why many of my clients would appreciate this opportunity. However, my attorney brain quickly kicked in, and I began thinking of how participation in such a Valentine’s celebration could easily be used against a party in court. 
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My own practice deals with a lot of high-conflict custody disputes. In many of my cases, one party is asserting that the other parent is not co-parenting and/or alienating.  While on the surface, this may seem like small, harmless, fun, it could easily be evidence of animosity and the hatred in family law court.

I know...total buzzkill, right? If you’re committed to this idea because it provides any psychological relief, do so cautiously. It would be foolish to use actual names here; to be safe, I would encourage use of nicknames for all parties. Also, I would not share this with a single soul. Not verbally, and certainly not through social media or pictures. For anyone struggling with ongoing rage, I would encourage therapy. Anger and hate are very human emotions, especially during and after a significant loss, but you deserve to move past it into your next chapter! Working with a skilled counselor can help ensure that you have appropriately coped with a relationship ending and are able to move forward in a positive direction. 

Happy Valentine’s Day!
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